Teach men how to please you by encouraging them to do things for you.

Opening a door.

Holding your coat.

Carrying your bag.

Removing your shoes.

Then, move onto more intimate services.

The woman who appeals to a man’s vanity may stimulate him, the woman who appeals to his heart may attract him, but it is the woman who appeals to his imagination who gets him. — Helen Rowland

Proper training requires a lot of reinforcement. 

Once is not enough.

Men are slow learners so usually it is necessary to demonstrate the point with regularity and with firmness.

She drew back her lips a little so that her small white teeth became

visible, and then said lightly, as if she were discussing some

trifling matter, "Do you want to be my slave?"

"There is no equality in love," I replied solemnly. "Whenever it is

a matter of choice for me of ruling or being ruled, it seems much

more satisfactory to me to be the slave of a beautiful woman. But

where shall I find the woman who knows how to rule, calmly, full of

self-confidence, even harshly, and not seek to gain her power by

means of petty nagging?"

"Oh, that might not be so difficult."

"You think--"

"I--for instance--" she laughed and leaned far back--"I have a real

talent for despotism--I also have the necessary furs--but last night

you were really seriously afraid of me!"

- Venus in Furs

Set Rules For Him

Don't underestimate how intoxicating power can be.
Having complete control over a man is addictive; you want to exercise it more and more frequently and push the boundaries further and further.

What Is Femdom?

Femdom is not for men.  It was developed by women, for women. Not for men. The sole purpose of femdom is to enhance female pleasure. Whether the man enjoys it or not depends upon whether or not he enjoys giving a woman pleasure – her way , not his. What woman can deny the appeal of having an eager naked man at your beck and call, willing to serve , silent, obedient, virile? This is sex for women. It starts when you want it to.  It lasts as long as you want it to last. And what takes place is entirely up to you…

We’re not talking sex dungeons, whips & chains, mistress/slave relationships. Come on, who’s that corny? Femdom is about enjoying your sexuality in a healthy, adult, intelligent way. If you want to use your mind as well as your body, achieve long-term sexual satisfaction and longevity, read further.

When did you start asking a man for permission?

I think the media is doing this to me on purpose. How am I supposed to keep up with all of the aspects that I am supposed to be insecure about? Today it’s hair. Tomorrow it’s shoes. And the next day it’s the shape of my nose.

I can’t even get angry with people who tell me that I should put myself down because I don’t look a certain way. It is exhausting to play that game everyday and I haven’t played it in years. Every time I stand in the mirror I look at myself and I am glad that I do not look just like the girl on the tele. If I was her, I would have to act like she does and get treated like she does. As long as I am me, I am allowed to live by my own rules. I can wear what ever I think makes me look like I deserve respect.

I can dress like I belong in my world not yours. I can lounge around wearing nothing but pantyhose (something I do almost every day) even if there is no one there to see me<^_^>. And I don’t have to mind if you think that I am crazy, because I don’t play that game anymore. I don’t play by your rules.

Similarly, you do not have to play by my rules. You may do things that make me not want to respect you or that make me wish I could influence you in my direction. But at the end of it all, you are allowed to play by your own rules and I respect you for that. All I ask in return is that you respect me back.

–Miss Ari ^_^

Seek opportunities to assert your feminine desires.

Loneliness is the product of laziness.

As soon as you stop trying, you are destined to fail.

You Decide What Sex Means In Your Relationship